Secrets: Revealed

There's secrets, and there are secrets.

Some secrets fall along the lines of day to day gossip; a friends new love interest, an embarassing moment, what she heard through the grape vine about so and so. Stories that, in the grand scheme of things, hold no importance at all. It is much more likely that this type of secret will "just so happen" to slip out, and the only consequence of not keeping this secret will be a short moment of drama and dissapointment. Reality is, it is this secrets' job to make its way through our own personal grape vines and to be discovered. This type of secret, (although I do truly believe that a secret is a secret and should be kept either way) essentially, creates the sad entertainment of our daily lives. In other words, as far as secrets are concerned, it's at the bottom of the food chain. No one really cares about it, and most people will likely eat these secrets up as fast as they can.

However, every now and then someone chooses to reveal to us a secret. This type of secret is king shit and should require a 'warning' sign to be stamped on its forehead. Once being told this secret, the receiver of this new information needs to be aware that, by chance this secret should be told, there are not only life changing consequences for the giver but also for the receiver. Needless to say, there are only a select few who will ever tell their secret and an even smaller amount who will ever get to hear them.

For some reason, which to this day I will never quite grasp, I have been the receiver of many such secrets. Most people will think that this is something to be proud of- because clearly it implies that you're a trustworthy person, and in turn that's something to boast about. It's not. (That is not to say that I don't understand why someone might think it is or that I don't see the importance of being 'a receiver,' but knowing the reality of these secrets I also understand their downside). Basically, this isn't the type of secret that you try to learn simply because you're a curious person. This type of secret usually springs itself on you when you least expect it, from those you least expect, and in my experience, at the times where you're pretty sure another secret might kill you.

The scary thing is, when someone tells you this secret you're holding their lives, their dignity and their hearts in your hands. You have to make the commitment and the promise that, no matter what (and I really mean no matter what) this secret will never leave the confines of your heart and your mind. This secret now becomes a part of who you are and will forever change you. This secret will also change how you see the world and moreover, how you see the person that told you. If that's not hard enough, here's the real kicker: You can't judge the persons' secret. No matter what this secret may be you have to love them unconditionally. That's the hardest and the most important part, and the part that most people don't understand (which subsequently is the reason why some of these secrets get told). Most people don't understand the meaning of unconditional love, and fail to realise that really loving a person means loving the darkest, scariest, weirdest things about them- whether they have been wronged or done wrong or are doing wrong. Whether they pick their nose or have extra toes or whatever, you have to love them. And you have to keep their secret. Now or later, no matter what position keeping this secret might put you in, you have to keep it.

Realistically, most people can't do this. And realistically, that's completely fair. It's failing to reconize that about yourself before acquiring the secret that's the problem. My point of all this secret talk is this. Some people are put on this earth to be great leaders, others to be great inventors or writers or doctors or dreamers. Others are put on this earth to trust. We are put on this earth simply so people don't have to carry everything on their own. We are put on this world to love others despite their flaws and to make them realise that whatever their secrets may be there is always someone who loves them. I truly believe that some secrets will change you forever (for better or for worse), but I also believe that there is a reason why these secrets have become my burden to bear.

If there is one secret about me that is the scariest and hardest thing for myself and others to understand, and accept, it's that no matter who you are and no matter what has happened to you I will never not love you. I will never judge your past or present unless you ask me to. And no matter what (and I really mean no matter what) your secret is always safe with me.

...but I guess that's not a secret at all.